Extracts from letters written on behalf of the Universal House of Justice
September 2003
The House of Justice sympathizes with the deep feelings you have expressed concerning the relations of adoptive parents to their children and affirms your view that the role of such parents in nurturing the development of these children is as valuable as that of natural parents. The noble standing of both natural and adoptive parents is affirmed by Bahá’u’lláh in the Kitáb-i-Aqdas in the benediction He invokes for parents who raise their own and other children. He states: “He that bringeth up his son or the son of another, it is as though he hath brought up a son of Mine; upon him rest My Glory, My loving kindness, My Mercy, that have compassed the world.”
It is in this same Book of Laws that Bahá’u’lláh enunciated the law requiring parental consent to marriage. Shoghi Effendi interpreted this law as applying to natural parents, one purpose being “to place a certain gratitude and respect in the hearts of children for those who have given them life and sent their souls out on the eternal journey towards their Creator”. Surely God is just, and the absence of a legal requirement that adoptive parents give consent to marriage does not in any way detract from the high spiritual merit of their parental role; nor should it diminish the love and unity between the adoptive parents and their adoptive child. In this regard, the House of Justice has stated previously that the adoptive child, while not obligated to obtain consent of his adoptive parents, may well choose to do so, out of a sense of love and respect for them.
In cases where the civil law prevents the disclosure of the names of the natural parents, the child is, of course, under no obligation to seek their consent to marriage, but in those where it is possible for the child to know his natural parents, consent must be obtained provided there is nothing in the law or in the adoption contract which prevents him from doing so.